The lived experience, Episode 10 – This week: Esther, Part 3 (final)
12 October 2023Last week we read about Esther’s painful experiences. In this last part we see cautious, brave […]The lived experience, Episode 10 – This week: Esther, Part 2
9 October 2023In the previous blog we met Esther, who told us how lonely and excluded she often felt and how she […]The lived experience, Episode 10 – This week: Esther, Part 1
27 September 2023Esther came to me in a roundabout way because there were breastfeeding problems: overproduction, […]Secure, sacred silence – blog by Petra Bouma
10 August 2023We already knew each other, Denise and I. Four years ago I had also visited her for a lactation […]Book review ‘I swear allegiance – Being yourself in a uniform world’ by Michiel van der Pols, Part 2
5 August 2023Earlier this week I discussed the introductory chapters of ‘I swear allegiance – Being […]Book review ‘I swear allegiance – Being yourself in a uniform world’ by Michiel van der Pols, Part 1
31 July 2023Through a post on LinkedIN I became aware of the work of Michiel van der Pols, who, as a former […]Trauma-sensitive lactation care – I am ready for it!
26 July 2023It was the summer of 1994 and after a beautiful home birth our third daughter was born. She’s […]Book review ‘Vadervuur’ by Jeroen de Jong, Part 2
21 July 2023Earlier this week we shared Part 1 of this book review; today you read Part 2. As mentioned, […]Book review ‘Vadervuur’ by Jeroen de Jong, Part 1
17 July 2023Once you get into circles of attachment parenting and responsive, sensitive parenting, there are […]Trauma, triggers, and protecting your boundaries, Part 3 (final)
12 July 2023Last week I shared the memories that surfaced in the CI-session and today I share the insight I […]Trauma, triggers, and protecting your boundaries, Part 2
7 July 2023Last week I shared an incident with a drunk woman and how I reacted to her. This week I will tell […]Trauma, triggers, and protecting your boundaries, Part 1
30 June 2023The delicious dessert was finished; the party was coming to an end when she came over and said to […]Book review of ‘I already work (I just don’t get paid for it)’ by Lynn Berger, Part 2
5 June 2023As announced in Part 1, I will elaborate in this blog on my objections to an approach that argues […]Book review of ‘I already work (I just don’t get paid for it)’ by Lynn Berger, Part 1
22 May 2023A pleasantly long train journey in the ‘Silence’-compartment, followed by a Sunday evening with tea […]Freedom and security to just ‘be’ – your true Self
8 May 2023More or less out of the blue he texted me: “Hi Marianne, how are you?” I was surprised, pleasantly […]Facts versus Feelings – guest blog by Janis Isaman; Part 2
3 May 2023Last week, we read the first half of the blog by Janis Isaman, Marianne’s Compassionate Inquiry […]Facts versus Feelings – guest blog by Janis Isaman; Part 1
24 April 2023For the regular readers of our blog, it will not come as a surprise that we are big fans of the […]Training youth healthcare: which interest is central?
14 April 2023Recently I had an exchange with a lactation consultant colleague about a training she will shortly […]Professionals and ACE-awareness, Episode 8 – This week: Kerstin Uvnäs Moberg
6 April 2023A little less than two weeks ago, we had a wonderful lactation consultant training day in Utrecht […]Book review ‘From madness to Wisdom’ by Iris van Zomeren
22 March 2023Through her beautiful email to ACE Aware NL I came into contact with the author of the book ‘From […]‘Raising Resilience’ – the ACE Aware NL podcast
8 March 2023Today is International Women’s Day! This year’s international theme is ‘Embrace […]Book review ‘Man’s Search For Meaning’ by Viktor E. Frankl, Part 2 (final)
3 March 2023Last week, we made a start with a review of Viktor Frankl’s ‘Man’s Search For Meaning’ and […]Book review ‘Man’s Search For Meaning’ by Viktor E. Frankl
23 February 2023A little booklet it is, in its 2004 paperback version, but a crucial message it contains and so a […]The lived experience, Episode 9 – This week: Hester, Part 3 (final)
18 February 2023Last week Hester told about her period of illness. Today she takes a closer look at a number of […]The lived experience, Episode 9 – This week: Hester, Part 2
10 February 2023Last week we heard about the beginning of Hester’s life. Today she talks about her illness. […]The lived experience, Episode 9 – This week: Hester, Part 1
2 February 2023We meet at a gathering about the influence of suppressed emotions on physical health. She has had a […]Aspects of (in)secure attachment – a team training
20 January 2023The training had been in the pipeline for so long and yet it just did not come about. Busyness on […]The lived experience, Episode 8 – This week: Joy
12 January 2023In the spring of 2022 I came into contact with a small-scale care institution in Assen, where very […]The lived experience, Episode 7 – This week: Jipe, working with Compassionate Inquiry
6 January 2023Today we share with you the story of someone who has been dealing with issues related to childhood […]Webinar and question session regarding ‘The Myth of Normal’ with Gabor Maté
24 December 2022A week ago, we gathered with a few people to listen to a webinar with Gabor Maté as the main guest, […]Book review ‘Ikigai’ by Héctor García and Francesc Miralles
16 December 2022We recently read the book ‘Ikigai – The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy […]Compassionate Inquiry – an exercise
4 December 2022Last week we concluded the book review of ‘The Myth of Normal’ with Part 5. In it we […]Book review of ‘The Myth of Normal’, Part 5 (final)
21 November 2022Last week, we posted Part 4 in this blog series and this week we finish the sequence by sharing our […]Book review of ‘The Myth of Normal’, Part 4
14 November 2022Last week, we shared the blog about Part III of ‘The Myth of Normal’; this week, we turn to Part […]Book review of ‘The Myth of Normal’, Part 3
6 November 2022Last week, we discussed Part II of ‘The Myth of Normal’; this week, we will look at Part III, […]Book review ‘The Myth of Normal’, Part 2
28 October 2022The Myth of Normal, Part 2 Last week, we discussed Part I of ‘The Myth of Normal’, the new book by […]Book review ‘The Myth of Normal – Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture’ door Gabor Maté en Daniel Maté, Part 1
22 October 2022And then it arrived, early October: the long-expected new book by Gabor Maté and his co-author, son […]Collective Trauma Summit 2022 – a treasure trove!
11 October 2022Last week, it was the week of the Collective Trauma Summit again, an online conference with a huge […]Powerful inspiration, beautiful cooperation, and courageous steps
4 October 2022Thursday 29 September was an intensive day with beautiful, inspiring conversations and encounters! […]Zomergasten (Summerguests): the body and the experiences that are not forgotten
6 September 2022In the last week of August, in the run-up to the impending broadcast of ‘Zomergasten’ (‘Summer […]The lived experience, Episode 6 – This week: Anja and Peter (Part 3, final)
6 September 2022The lost connection with ourselves (trauma) can be very difficult to find back. Who am I really? […]The lived experience, Episode 6 – This week: Anja and Peter (Part 2)
28 July 2022Last week we ende with they laying of the game by Anja and Peter. Both their layings make things […]The lived experience, Episode 6 – This week: Anja and Peter (Part 1)
21 July 2022She approaches me because she is concerned about their seven-year-old son. Things are not going too […]The lived experience, Episode 5 – This week: Sterre
8 July 2022Working holistically It was a Thursday afternoon and I was in a store when she called. She wondered […]An invitation to write!
22 June 2022Recently we shared with you our review of José Al’s book, ‘The soiled nest. Transgenerational […]Learning from one another: a lesson about secure and insecure attachment (Part 2)
12 June 2022Recently our was about the guest lecture I gave at a school in a course where the students […]Learning from one another: a lesson about secure and insecure attachment
27 May 2022Whether I wanted to give a guest lesson at her school about secure and insecure attachment. She […]Book review of ‘The soiled nest. Transgenerational trauma’ by José Al
17 May 2022“When silence and ‘enduring’ have become a survival mechanism and the psyche and […]From sharp edges to more softness
26 April 2022In the autumn of 2019, Victor Bodiut and Marianne Vanderveen made a plan for the start of ACE Aware […]The lived experience, Episode 4 – This week: Mirjam, Part 3 (final)
15 April 2022Last week, we read quite a number of Mirjam’s sad experiences. This week we take a more analytical […]The lived experience, Episode 4 – This week: Mirjam, Part 2
7 April 2022Last week we started the series about Mirjam, who candidly speaks about her childhood experiences. […]The lived experience, Episode 4 – This week: Mirjam, Part 1
31 March 2022It’s sunny when I arrive for our conversation on a late summer Monday afternoon. Just as I […]The power of a good labour and birth
23 March 2022Recently, in three separate lactation consultations, mothers told stories of their experience that […]How parents of today can take care of their little ones; Part 2
16 March 2022Last week, we shared a first part about communication towards new parents, following an article by […]How parents of today can take care of their little ones; Part 1
5 March 2022No mistakes, but a shared quest Recently we received a message via someone’s Facebook page […]Professionals and ACE-awareness, Episode 7 – This week: Chris Vleesman
18 February 2022We left with a group of about fifteen people from the location where we had enjoyed coffee and tea […]The lived experience, Episode 3 – This week: Isis, Part 3
7 February 2022Last week we ended with a sad conclusion from Isis that she has lost herself over the years. After […]The lived experience, Episode 3 – This week: Isis, Part 2
31 January 2022The practice room is well heated; the candles are burning and there are fresh flowers. From the […]The lived experience, Episode 3 – This week: Isis, Part 1
22 January 2022My client and I had gotten in touch through an unusual route. I had spoken about my work with […]Professionals and ACE-awareness, Episode 6 – This week: Jessica Boerema, Part 2
22 December 2021Last week we heard how Jessica Boerema switched from medical pedagogical care provider to […]Professionals and ACE-awareness, Episode 6 – This week: Jessica Boerema, Part 1
17 December 2021It is a sunny summer morning when I arrive on my folding bike at my interviewee for today, Jessica […]Professionals and ACE-awareness, Episode 5 – This week: Kelli van Gerven, Part 1
9 December 2021It’s a sunny Wednesday as I walk underneath the tall trees to the main entrance of the health […]Professionals and ACE-awareness, Episode 5 – This week: Kelli van Gerven, Part 2
9 December 2021Last week we started a conversation with youth health doctor Kelli. This week, even more aspects of […]The Lived Experience, Episode 2 – This week: Simone, Part 2
24 November 2021Last week, we started with Simone’s memories of her childhood, made clear in part with the […]The Lived Experience, Episode 2 – This week: Simone, Part 1
18 November 2021It is beautiful late summer weather when I arrive at my interviewee for today, Simone (pseudonym). […]Concepts, Part 1
8 November 2021Conversations, co-creations, and conceptualisations Last week we wanted to turn a number of […]Professionals and ACE-awareness; Episode 4 – This week: Beatrijs Smulders; Part 2
29 October 2021Last week we finished with the importance of building a physical, non-verbal foundation for […]Professionals and ACE-awareness; Episode 4 – This week: Beatrijs Smulders; Part 1
20 October 2021The sun is shining when I arrive at Amsterdam Central. I open my folding bike and ride across the […]The ACE Aware NL-presentation for GOLD Early Years
14 October 2021Last week, I had the privilege and pleasure to be one of the speakers at the GOLD Learning Early […]A dialogue about connective parenting; Part 2
6 October 2021Last week we shared Part 1 of a dialogue that ACE Aware NL had with Anky De Frangh of […]A dialogue about connective parenting; Part 1
1 October 2021ACE Aware NL recently got into a conversation with Anky De Frangh, child psychologist and […]GOLDen opportunities for learning about the early years
22 September 2021Conferences… Ever since I was an experienced volunteer breastfeeding counsellor (somewhere around […]The wisdom of ‘minor’ trauma
15 September 2021When daily life’s ‘bad habits’ light the way to healing your pain from early […]A new season!
8 September 2021It’s September already! Summer is (almost) behind us, although it looks like we still have […]A father-daughter-talk about connection
28 July 2021A father and daughter in a conversation with each other about parenting stuff and about the parent […]Film review of ‘The Wisdom of Trauma’
22 July 2021One month has passed approximately after we, at ACE Aware NL, watched ‘The Wisdom of […]Book review of ‘What Happened to You?’ by Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey
15 July 2021More than a question turned into more than just a book! That all-important phrase… ‘What happened […]The Lived Experience, Episode 1 – This week: Elizabeth, Part 5 (final)
7 July 2021Last week, we ended with the importance of unconditional love; this week we continue on this path […]The Lived Experience, Episode 1 – This week: Elizabeth, Part 4
1 July 2021Last week, we spoke about the impact of being your authentic self on the relationship with […]The Lived Experience, Episode 1 – This week: Elizabeth, Part 3
23 June 2021The fine, and sometimes edgy, balance between attachment and authenticity Last week, we spoke about […]The Lived Experience, Episode 1 – This week: Elizabeth, Part 2
17 June 2021When shame and disconnection hinder true belonging Last week, we made a start by exploring […]The Lived Experience, Episode 1 – This week: Elizabeth, Part 1
9 June 2021This week, we start with a series on the lived experience of ACEs. We share with you a number of […]Positive Childhood Experiences: Building resilience and mitigating toxic stress through safety and connection
4 June 2021Last time, we mentioned Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs) in our blog post about […]Misconceptions about trauma-informed education
21 May 2021In October 2020, we started a series on becoming a trauma-informed educator with a list of tips. […]ACEs: what we all deserve to know about them
13 May 2021In 1994, two physicians called Vincent Felitti and Robert Anda, set out to study the relationship […]The influence of ACEs on biologically normal sleep
7 May 2021Every now and then, you may come across a news site or a parenting blog publishing a piece with an […]The importance of our use of language
28 April 2021This week, we would like to talk about an important topic, namely the way we use language when we […]Professionals and ACE-awareness; Episode 3 – This time: Carla Brok; Part 4 (final)
21 April 2021Last week, together with social psychiatric nurse Carla Brok, we looked at the importance of paying […]Professionals and ACE-awareness; Episode 3 – This time: Carla Brok; Part 3
14 April 2021Last week we discussed with social psychiatric nurse Carla Brok the role of the care provider in […]Professionals and ACE-awareness; Episode 3 – This time: Carla Brok; Part 2
7 April 2021Last week we got a first glimpse into the work of Social Psychiatric Nurse Carla Brok. Today we […]Professionals and ACE-awareness; Episode 3 – This time: Carla Brok; Part 1
1 April 2021Through the beautiful landscape of the Achterhoek, past a number of small villages, I drive to […]‘From security to resilience’ – the making of the Vakblad Vroeg article, Part 1
24 March 2021Last Friday, two of our team members found the paper version of Vakblad Vroeg on their door mat, […]‘From security to resilience’ – the making of the Vakblad Vroeg-article, Part 2
24 March 2021Last week, we discussed how even subtle differences in wordings can introduce an unwelcome power […]Book Review of ‘The Body Keeps the Score’ by Bessel van der Kolk, Part 2
10 March 2021Last week, we dealt with Parts 1, 2, and 3 of the book ‘The Body Keeps the Score’. In these parts […]Book Review of ‘The Body Keeps the Score’ by Bessel van der Kolk
7 March 2021In this blog, we will review a book by Bessel van der Kolk, a (Dutch-born) psychiatrist, researcher […]Salutogenesis and ACEs, Part 2
24 February 2021Last week, we dove into the concept of ‘salutogenesis’, coined by medical sociologist Aaron […]Salutogenesis and ACEs, Part 1
18 February 2021A few weeks ago, in the last part of our conversation with Henriëtte Markink, one of the topics we […]From Childhood to Life Happiness – our questionnaire, Part 2
12 February 2021In last week’s blog, we made a reminder note and started to look at the first insights from our […]From Childhood to Life Happiness – our questionnaire
5 February 2021For this week’s blog, we would like to have a first ‘dive’ into the initial responses to our ACE […]Professionals and ACE-awareness; Episode 2 – This time: Henriëtte Markink, Part 3 (final)
28 January 2021Last week, we spoke in detail about the diverse aspects that Henriëtte sees as the essence of her […]Professionals and ACE-awareness; Episode 2 – This time: Henriëtte Markink, Part 2
21 January 2021Last week, we discussed Henriëtte Markink’s start of her work with people with trauma. Today, we […]Professionals and ACE-awareness; Episode 2 – This time: Henriëtte Markink, Part 1
15 January 2021When I open the front door, Henriëtte Markink, nurse practitioner, stands before me with a bright […]Our Society and Adult Supremacy, Part 5
2 January 2021Last week, we discussed how the child’s interest is often not given the same weight as the adult […]Our Society and Adult Supremacy, Part 6 (final)
2 January 2021Last week, we discussed how it can be very difficult for parents to meet the needs of their […]Melting ‘The Little Iceberg’ – a children’s story about healing through connection
25 December 2020Today, we share with you a children’s story, written in a beautiful book, which turns out to be […]Our Society and Adult Supremacy, Part 4
24 December 2020Last week, we discussed that under stress, children develop coping strategies that are attuned to […]Our Society and Adult Supremacy, Part 3
17 December 2020Last week, we discussed that health and wellbeing are influenced by the biosocial inheritance, the […]Our Society and Adult Supremacy, Part 2
9 December 2020Last week, we discussed several basic aspects of human coexistence and children’s need to feel […]Our Society and Adult Supremacy, Part 1
2 December 2020Last week in our blog, we mentioned the concept of ‘Adult Supremacy’ (AS), the dominance of (the […]From Childhood to Life Happiness!
19 November 2020Have you ever wondered why you remember some childhood memories vividly, and others not? Do you […]Trauma-Informed Classrooms: Why They Are Important and How You Can Become a Trauma-Informed Educator, Part 3
12 November 2020From the trauma-informed educator, to the trauma-informed education setting to creating […]Trauma-Informed Classrooms: Why They Are Important and How You Can Become a Trauma-Informed Educator, Part 2
6 November 2020Last week we focused on the importance of a trauma-informed education that takes into account the […]Trauma-Informed Classrooms: Why They Are Important and How You Can Become a Trauma-Informed Educator, Part 1
29 October 2020Very vividly do I remember the first time I walked in a classroom in a Dutch school and taught my […]A Full Plate: When ACEs Lead to Problematic Self-Reliance
22 October 2020They sat at the dinner table; his wife had cooked something really nice and was filling the plates. […]Book review of ‘Sabre Tooth Tigers & Teddy Bears’
14 October 2020In her latest book, ‘Sabre Tooth Tigers & Teddy Bears: The connected baby guide to attachment’, […]Unspoken thoughts
23 July 2020We bumped in to one another on the street near our home and had a chat. He was doing his usual […]- New insights4 June 2020For years and years, I had been captivated by literature on secure attachment, by the workings of […]